Can you need a man who is down and out ?!

Ladies do you think it’s possible to still need a man who is down and out? Like financially down which also takes his emotions down ? Fully depressed at this point, how can you still need him? Don’t we need to be healthy emotionally to be available to others ?

Was just having a conversation with my husband. At some point in our marriage he was very down and I stopped being vulnerable to him. I spend so much time trying to motivate him while also caring for myself and I almost feel I became a man to myself which pushed him away. Was I right ? Is it even possible to be vulnerable to a man down on his luck ?!