Not sure this is the correct group but I’m at my wits end here... my step sons done very questionable things to my daughter. For example, before I was going to organize the recycling just outside I told my step son(8, almost 9) make sure you don’t try to pick up baby. I come in she’s hanging from her swing because he undone her... denied it. He did it again, I was just outside helping move the shed quickly... but this time I came in to baby on her face. He had NO remorse. He didn’t care and it was scary. I have a video monitor and one morning he checked if I was asleep then I heard him open the door on her monitor (while she was asleep) and dragged her by her fit and was holding her by her handing while she dangled and started to cry, I was half asleep saying to him “put her down” he straight up lied to my face THREE times saying I’m not even touching her then I said (as I was getting pants on this was happening) that I can see him on the camera. She had one sentimental teddy bear passed down from me that he know of and purposely edged the dog on to play tug of war and completely destroy it then proceeded to rip the eye balls out and what not, anyways, my eyes been kept on them just to be sure nothing happens. My mil was supposed to take my daughter overnight for the first time while step son was visiting other grandma (good bc then I don’t risk anything bing happening to her) then I went behind our backs and made plans with the BM to pick him up. The problem is she sees no problem with stepson doings (he also has a 3 year old brother from his mom and has harmed as well.. one time he purposely ran him over with a four wheeler for kids... and has been making awful lies about my so and his mom saying he’s abused, not fed ect) but to my mil he does no wrong, never has and never will although this problem is not only with my daughter but his other brother too. Now, I don’t feel comfortable sending both of them because she feels no need to keep an eye on the situation and I just can’t risk it. That’s my baby... don’t get me wrong I love my step son with all of my heart, I just don’t want him doing something bad that will forever affect his life. You know? I can’t blame them if something happens...and they would be left alone in the same room all night. So he’s free range to do whatever he wants. now my spouse is mad but I just can’t budge, this is my baby and it’s MY job to not put her in a situation where she could VERY much get hurt. Am I wrong ? Am I over worried? I need outside input.