So not pregnant yet but we r actively trying.

Forgive my horrible grammar and shit.

My big concern/reoccurring nightmare is our families who all live on the opposite side of the country. We r in Washington. They are in Florida. We aren’t due to go back home to Florida till at least late October early November when, if we do conceive, I could be 2-3 months ish along. Now our respective families get along great w each other but there is animosity/jealousy what ever you want to call it inside our respective families.

My dad hates my moms side(he is the only one left on his side). Didn’t even go to my wedding because of it. The rest of my side gets along great. I also don’t want to hurt my mother (who I have a wayyyy better relationship with as well as both my step dads, moms 2nd ex and current husband) by telling my father first to avoid a confrontation with him as he has issues and insecurities (which I know is not my problem) and as we just reconnected about 2 years ago I still feel we r pretty shaky.

His mom can be cordial with his dad (who he is closer with) but is definitely the type I feel would be hurt or resentful if we told his dad and step mom before her.

So I guess my question is how should I handle this? Outside of my father I guess we could get all the parents and step parents in the same room. But if we decide to mail something cute we can’t guarantee one isn’t going to arrive before another and then w social media and what not obviously it could blow up in our faces. His mom would def post something as she almost ruined my husband’s proposal to me through a text to his brother stating “btw Andrews proposing.. oops didn’t mean to send that” all in the same. Freaking. Text. She could have jus deleted it.... (his brother is apparently known for ruining surprises, I haven’t met him yet so I wouldn’t know first hand and he didn’t ruin our proposal) I just feel this could turn into a shit storm of stress we don’t need.