So my hubs Tim had a Bermese Python(not sure if that's how you spell it I'm not a fan of snakes except garder snakes or green snakes) when we first got married his 4th son Chris whom was 15 at the time hated me because I'm only 3 yrs older than he is and had asked if he could go to his girlfriend's house when I asked if her parents would be there he said no so I did too...he said "I hate you! You're young enough to be older my sister! Why can't you just disappear?" To which my young 18 yr old smart mouth self said "If I was you're older sister I'd beat the shit out of you for that. I'm only saying no because I'm not an idiot Chris! I know you're just going over there to have sex. You're 15 years old still practically a baby. Do you honestly think you or that 14 year old girl are ready to take care of one?" He replied " You suck! You'll pay for this! You're not my fucking mom I'll never see you as anything, but the bitch that ruined my family." (Side note his parents were never together he was the product of a casual hook up of friends one drunk night in a pool) 2 days later I was in the shower and low and behold someone (Chris) threw said Python over the top of the shower door needless to say I shot out of the shower, jumped on the bathroom counter, and screamed for my husband...I thought Tim (my hubs) was gonna beat the black off him when he found Chris...I felt bad for telling my husband about what happened 2 days prior, but he couldn't understand why he had done it til I did... Mine and Chris' relationship is still strained, but he's never taken an argument that far again well honestly he has ( I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy the 16th of July and had to have my right fallopian tube removed at 4wks and we didn't even know I was pregnant ) He commented something so hurtful when I came home (he's 20 now) he said " I'm happy your bastard died!l. Dad has 6 of us and you have none you deserve to suffer like you've made me suffer." He didn't know hubs was listening and so Chris was kicked out and isn't allowed back on the property...My question is...How do I fix our relationship? I know that I'll never be his mother and that he'll never call me mom like his siblings do, but all I want is the respect that he shows his mother...I've forgiven him for his hurtful words and actions because God teaches forgiveness is key to healing and living a happy life...But I can't be happy until Chris is happy...