We don’t have any kids. We’re not ttc. I’d say over the last 5-10 year my sex Drive has become almost nonexistent. I’m also exhausted all the time in the evening because of meds I have to take. What do I do? What he wants are these long drawn out hours of bdsm fantasies on a

Regular basis. I think ideally he’d like these fantasies played out every day or every other day. I could

Handle just regular sex. But I’m exhausted and have no sex drive. Has this Happened to anyone else and what did you do? Personally I

Feel like sex maybe once or twice a month max. Some months I don’t have any desire at all. I don’t want to destroy our relationship and I wish I had the energy and desire to play out these fantasies on a regular basis but I don’t. I’m 38. Probably on the cusp of going perimenaposal. Maybe that’s why I lost my sex drive I don’t know. 8 years ago I would have been super into this and probably wanting more

Than him. I don’t want to make

Him miserable but I can’t handle that much sex and that much super drawn out sex.

Have any of

You been in a similar situation ever? And what did you do?