Hi. We have a newborn baby she’s 9 days old and while my husband has always been difficult even before she was here, I feel like it’s not changed at all and I’m thinking I made a huge mistake ever marrying him. We are both older I’m 40 he’s 39. We’ve had a few miscarriages but we both agreed and wanted a baby. My mom has been here since she was born and planned to stay at least a month bc I needed her help. She lives in another state. Well she’s been here over a week now and last night he goes “she has to go”. Bitching to me how she’s in our business and how he hasn’t had a chance to be a family with me or do what he has to do. Problem is he doesn’t even help me so that’s why I needed her help. He was ok in the beginning when she was here but now that she’s been here over a week he’s distant stays in his man cave doesn’t talk to her, won’t eat the dinner she made today. A real fucking baby. I need a partner not a child. I don’t have time for this bullshit and I now feel terrible for my daughter for being with a guy like this. We’ve been married 6 years and I thought things would get better when she was here and he’d actually care. I’m doing all the work and waking up all night. I’m struggling with breastfeeding and mastitis and am stressed myself. All I needed was support from my husband and every time I ask for something I get pushback. Now I’ll be a single mom and I love my little girl. He’s so difficult and I’m

So hurt. We used to do marriage counseling and he went on his own and he quit which was the worst timing. I’m at a loss on what to do. He changes her diaper when I ask and feeds her a bottle but doesn’t read about anything about babies or put much effort into anything with her. Anyone have similar experiences like this?