So about 2 weeks ago my maid of honor (let’s call her B) was telling me how she had suicidal thoughts and let me read a paragraph she wrote that was dated that night about how she felt. At the bottom of the paragraph it said how she “had a plan” that she was going to go through with and no one would know until the morning because she’d be sleeping. My first thought was suicide because she had wrote about how she was having thoughts and that she had been cutting herself. As soon as she left I told my mom who called her mom (were childhood friends). Her mom talked to her and got B into therapy. It’s been 2 almost 3 weeks since she’s contacted me. I went to message her and she’s now blocked me on every social media website and also blocked my phone number. The only way I would have of contacting her is through her mom who is still talking to me, or going to her house because she lives right across the street.

Then today, I found a way to look into her Instagram account. She’s deleted every picture that has me tagged or has me in it. It was a huge punch to the face. I understand she’s mad at me for telling her mother but it sucks timing wise.

Her dress comes in next week not to mention my wedding is in 23 days. Yes, 23 DAYS!! We have everything picked out for her AND my mom paid for it because B has no job (21 and still living with mom and dad, not going to school, and has no money). We paid for her dress, shoes necklace. At this point, if she doesn’t contact me by the time the dress comes in, I’m putting someone else in that dress. (Close family member who can fit into B’s size). I had someone else tell me it’s rude since B was supposed to be in that dress and no one else. However, if she’s not going to be there don’t I have the right to put someone else in that dress?

Another side note is B has known me since I was 2. I care about her a lot and it has me in tears that she won’t be there on my big day. We’ve been best friends but she hasn’t been too happy with the fact that I’m moving to a different state the day after our wedding day with my fiancé. It really hurts that she’s acting like this over me trying to get her help. I don’t regret telling her mother at all but I’m just torn on the whole maid of honor situation now. Is it fair to put someone else in her dress?

The reason I threw in the fact that I’ve paid for everything if because I’m wondering if that gives me the right to put someone else in the dress. I’m not more concerned about the wedding than I am her. I got her the help she needed and she’s now blocked me for not keeping it between us two.