Romance is dead 😑

Okay so my husband ask for oral quite a bit and i mean i dont have a issue with it at all but ive become irritated when he as now and its for many reasons 1. He is selfish and wont care about not returning the favor 2. Its asked for in such a dudish 🙄way which is a huge turn off i mean foreplay is so dead and its irritating but he so blind to it and yes i have said something about it but idk i need a different approach my sex life is so dull and one sided but seems to be just fine to him...advice ladies 💭😪