Me and my husband have a great relationship to say the least. We get along great and all that good stuff but lately I’ve been noticing somethings since we moved into together that have bothered me so much. Literally he doesn’t do ANYTHING around the house and if he does it’s cause I had to ask him, and even when I ask him and he tells me he’ll get to it, he sometimes doesn’t or he will wait till I can help too. I’ve asked him the last 3 days to please take out the trash, and he said he will and it’s still sitting in the trash. I am trying to not take it out myself to prove a point but it’s getting nasty now. To top that off, I do all of the laundry. I did 5 loads of his and put the clean clothes on the couch to be folded. Came home and they’re still laying on the couch. I’ve asked if he could put his clothes away a week ago, they’re still sitting on the couch. The dishes do not get done unless I do them and they will sit in the sink until I get them done. I feel like I am his mother but letting things get messy and nasty to prove a point isn’t working anymore. What do I do?

** when ever I try to talk to him about having certain “chores” that were responsible for he gets upset with me and says we should just never let the house get nasty in the first place. Then he asks if we can drop the convo lol so it’s hard to talk to him when it’s about helping around the house.