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Self control! Also reflect upon your own marriage. What is that you're missing? Are you wanting to fill a void? If so, work hard on your own marriage. That should take your mind off of your professor. If all else fails avoid any unnecessary contact or conversation with professor. And at the end of the day if you're truly unhappy in your own marriage, seek counseling, and consider divorce before you step out.
Mega crush on (may be in love with) professor
Let me preface this with, I’m married, he’s married and he is almost twice my age. He is so kind and so helpful and I feel like I’m reading in to all of his kindness. I honestly would do anything for him and that makes me so weak. He’s also the smartest man I have ever met. I read something about confusing intellectual excitability with sexual desire. Maybe that’s what I’m doing but I can’t help but wonder if he feels the same. He’s never said or done anything inappropriate. I know it would destroy both of our careers but I can’t help but think about him often. How do I even begin to get over it when I have been crushing on him for almost a year? Help please!
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I’d just remind yourself that it is a crush. He is your professor and it is his job to be nice and get you passionate about what he is teaching you. I don’t believe you can be in love with someone who you’ve never had any sort of sexual history or even a proper d&m with. It isn’t worth acting on and ruining your marriage and his. If you’re unhappy in your marriage and wanting to look elsewhere that’s another issue.
Few things :) I'm known in some circles for getting too many crushes lol."Confusing intellectual excitability for sexual attraction" .... can definitely relate hardcore 😂Second, ok so you might not want to hear this at first right now... but the reality is that you are married. He is married. I personally have rules, if i have agreed to a monogamous relationship, I will not allow another person or crush to interfere or be prioritized above my current relationship. You agree to be monogamous, I think you agree to deal with ONE RELATIONSHIP at a time. And I'm polyamourous, so I'm all too familiar with loving multiple people. (It used to be confusing, but that's why my rules exist.) Accept your crush. It is going to happen in life, that you find someone other than your mate attractive. Just don't let it be some big thing. It's just a crush & it doesn't have to go anywhere.
Just back away from the married man lol Seriously, though, as a teacher myself he’d be breaking not only marriage vows but codes of conduct he’s contracted to uphold. Personally, a little crush is just something you can fantasize about. Obsession is the problem and not being able to leave them alone. Distance is the best medicine as you know he’s a “weakness” to you and your marriage. The grass is not always greener and an affair isn’t worth it to either of you.
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