Okay so to start off my fiance and I've been together for 6 years. I was 18 & he was 19 he have a child with another woman way before he met me. in his past relationship.. he has conceived a child with this woman, they've been friends for a few years and has decided to get into a relationship with one another, than also she was a "virgin" they both has conceived both their #1 baby without trying. And now here time goes by the baby has been born...

3 months later, he has decided to leave the relationship, due to the woman also downing him, never giving him credit for being the father and all. (This is what I was told...until) I've had a taste of that medicine for the first time. He has decided to go back to school (the father, my fiance) the mother of his child wanted to drop out of high school. (Which she did and has a job at grocery store. (I'M NOT HATING SHE DOINH WHAT SHE HAS TO DO)

So we met each other in school, he has informed me of his child and a little bit about how the mother is (at the time). So than time went by he would get to see his child we be lived together as a couple living with his mother at that.

He would get the child but the mother would have issues with me because I am their. She does not want the child around me (mind you, she has seen me we've hanged out together in her backyard talking while my fiance and his child are playing while the mother and I would talk and relax for hours)

Years and years has gone by our whole entire relationship. She will not let the child come to our home. Will not let the child come around if I am there?!? MADE ME FURIOUS! When the child was 1 years old and until almost 3 years old I've bought her clothes, shoes, diapers, wipes, food, everything the child needs. I don't have a child I don't know much about parenting, we are here now TTC my #1 his #2. #BABY DUST

This woman will not let the child come around where ever my fiance is. She wants the 3 of them together at her house so they can have father and daughter time, etc everything. Wanted to go to the fair, circus together, pumpkin patch and all just the 3 of them. We've argued, fought, has broken up multiple times but in the end were still here not going any where right by each other's side.

Til this very day, she has just gotten bitter over the years using their child as ammo, telling the child her dad is a deadbeat he don't want to be here. Even the child knows that the mother does not like me when the child was 2 years old. But I've changed her diapers, buy her food, everything a child needs. And I was doing this at the time when my fiance just finished school and was still trying to look for a job.

The child knows who I am, but as the older the child got and we've seen how the mother is just not changing but just getting bitter and everything is just getting harder and harder on seeing the child.

Now here we are moved out of state, he decided to move out of state with me to California to get better because he was going thru a medical emergency. But before we left she still would not let the child come to our home to sleep a few weeks with us when we lived just right down the street from them. Nothing! We had to be around the bus with this chick. She said the only way he can say goodbye forever and spend his last little time with this child was to be if he came over to get home alone like always!

So me being the good woman I am, I understood. We've been down here 8 months. She will not let him talk to his child. Nothing she can not come down here at all nothing. &the child is 6 years old now.

Any advice or just how time feel about after reading this? & he is a great father I've seen him he is NOT A DEADBEAT BECAUSE IF HE WAS I WILL NOT BE Thinking about having a child with this man especially my #1 :)

Thanks all for reading and just want to thank for any advice or opinions given of why this chick is doing this?!?