Pumping for Colic newborn effective?

Beebee

I'm getting a bit pissed off putting the fault at me for having a colic baby. She cries while I nurse her because she's in pain and I get told I should pump because the baby isn't getting enough (I am full of milk it's uncomfortable) or I need to pump to bottle feed her so she won't get any air trapped. Is this even effective?

I'm being frowned upon when I give her a pacifier after she's nursed because my girl prefers to fall on my nipple.

It's really bothering me, that I also get told to restrict my entire diet and all this is coming from my fiance's side of the family!!! While our pedestrian has said everything is normal on 2 occasions. Now my fiance thinks she might have an ear infection because of her constant shrieks, she has no symptoms to indicate that. I'm also sort of ranting here!