What the heck đ
FiancĂ© took a job that requires travel and letâs just say my family is not happy about it. At all. Theyâre not âbashingâ him per se but pretty much. I talked to my assistant manager about it as well and he basically agrees with my family that it isnât a decision a man with a family would/should make.
Back story:
Iâm 29 weeks pregnant and this past Monday my fiancĂ© started a new job that requires travel for weeks/months at a time with time to come home when requested. The pay is $15/hr guaranteed overtime, weekly pay and travel pay/paid hotel. Right now theyâre on 12 hour shifts m-f about 2 hours away. The last day at that job 2 hours away is Friday. And they will be flying him and everyone else out to Texas for another job. This is an electrician company. My fiancĂ©âs friend is the one that told him about it and he said thereâs no way heâd be taking the job/leaving his 5year old if the pay wasnât worth it for now.
Everyone in my family is basically saying how wrong he is to leave me and our two year old especially while Iâm pregnant. Theyâre saying he should be here and I shouldnât be in the position to handle everything here by myself. This outraged me because I feel like I can handle it. I was/am so attached to him that thatâs literally the only thing making me sad. But my point is, what if he wasnât in the picture at all? Iâd STILL have to do it all.
Theyâre like âwell what are you and him gonna do if he canât make it for the birth?â And just making me feel horrible and Itâs like they donât know how nervous I am about that particular situation also. Theyâre either gonna make me resent this decision or them.
Iâm so frustrated because literally theyâre belittling him and Iâm OVER IT. itâs not only causing me stress hearing how âitâs not fair and too much for youâ but also making me hate this decision and I want to be as supportive as I can be. He is SO SAD about not being here and I am the one that pushed him to take it. If the pay is worth it then why not? Were in a financial shit hole and if this sacrifice for the both of us is worth it then why is it such a problm? UGH
Before he agreed to the job he made it very clear that he needs to be there when I give birth in October. They agreed they will fly him home from wherever he is to make it. So Iâm holding them to it and so is he. He says thereâs no way heâll miss the birth.
Please I just need words of advice/encouragement here
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