How can you be friend with a guy without being "friend with benefit"?

I tried this last month and that fucker try to had intercourse with me even when I said no! We meet at a friendly bar after talking for a month. Hit it off great but after a week he try to get in my pant. I am not somebody that goes out but I'm new to the area and wanted to meet new people. Someone I invite to bbq and other event.

Making friend with both gender have always been tough for me, I'm very shy before I truly open up(trust issue).

I was so pressure into having intercourse, I blocked his number but keep his text and photo just in case(he's military).

The sign I notice before he mention wanting sex from me....1)he wanted to meet at a place for wine like 1am. (I know that was booty call. Something I was not interested in).

2) Even though I mention it won't a date, he keep saying it

3)During over conversation, he mention he only went on "one date" with female. He stated if their aint trying to take thing to the "next level" he stop bugging them. I now wonder if he also preasure them into having sex.

I'm a married lady(some may judge) thats almost 30. All I wanted was to meet both gender to invite over. My husband is my best friend(I told him) he wad the one that stated I should try make friend. He have stated this sonce high school almost 10 year ago lol I just can't make friend 😭 Female only hang with those that match them and male just want sex. Where would I be able to fit it?