I’ve come here for support and a listening ear quite a bit over the last couple of weeks. The stress from being a FTM, the stress from planning a wedding, and stress from buying a house has gotten to me. Especially since I can’t lay in bed and hide anymore.

But, we’ve now been given a whole new(ish) thing to stress over.

At about 3 months pregnant, we found out that my fiancé was being charged with having pot from an incident 3 years ago. He was let go, never arrested, and thought it all went away. He learned from that night and got out of the situation and friend group and moved to another state. He completely changed his life around.

This charge threatened his job. With a baby on the way, we got a lawyer to make sure we got things taken care of. He’s now doing a drug program (which is basically probation just with another name) for a problem he had already corrected!

Now, on top of fees, testing, meetings, packing to move, buying a house, being a dad, and dealing with a soon to be wife who is struggling all while working full time... he was told that because he’s in this program he can’t work for the company he has been working for.

I have no clue what is going to happen. Simple early twenties mistakes that most people do... I mean, hell, pot is legal in some places. He doesn’t smoke anymore and he quit drinking. He’s done everything right. And then this happens.

Who knows if he will lose his job. Who knows if we will be able to move forward on the house. We don’t know what will happen. All I can do is pretend everything is fine and keep moving forward. And pray. Pray. Pray.