So hey girls. i’ve been sitting here twiddling my thumbs about this situation. So I was talking to a girl who I have recently reconnected with and her brother is friends with guy we know mutually I just told her I met him once and he brought me Mickie D’s (McDonalds) as our “first date meeting” which was far from it🙄🙄. I didn’t tell them I met him on several occasions but I didn’t tell her that cause she would slabber. (She asked me if I had sex with him because they were all talking about me and him; I lied and said we only met once cause I didn’t want them knowing we slept together)So I told her he drank my drink and she went and told her brother who went and took the piss. He (I met him through my friend) escalated this by telling his friend who is a slabber that we had sex and is now telling his friends why he hasn’t been at their house is because he’s “scared” of me - I’m calling all this bullshit and then he went on saying I was a oul crazy clinger. You know the saying behind every crazy woman is someone who made her. Well that is what he did with me I told two of my girlfriends and one just said he is jealous of not getting my attention so he’s spreading shit about my name and reputation. But he has a woman and I don’t get why he’s dragging my reputation through the mud, just because I said he drank my drink and it was funny and then he started telling his whole mates that I slept with him. I know I should turn the other cheek but I’m not happy that he is giving and reputation. I’m friendly with one of his friends and he is filling me in. I’m not going to confront him because then that would annoy him but I have deleted him of social media platforms. I’m just annoyed he dragging my name through the mud but he is a bullshitter and usher. I can’t even say to my friends cause they hate hearing his name and can’t be bothered talking to me. I just wanted to share my story and see if you have any opinions. I don’t want anything negative. Sorry I forgot to add in we did have sex. I just wanted to keep our Sex life private. He’s 23 coming 24 and I’m 19 coming 20. His friend is filling me in with the information he is spreading about me. He says it’s not fair that he is doing this to me. I don’t get why he would escalate a silly comment to the point of degrading me.

Should I message him and ask him to stop slabbering about me?

I feel if I message him, his girlfriend will find out and I may receive a text from her.

Or he will not text back.

I feel this should be spoken in person face to face like adults.