My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months now. We’ve talked previously about having sex. We even attempted, but due to that I’m smaller than most girls, he chickened out when he hurt me. I’m also a virgin, so I knew the pain was normal. Ever since then I haven’t really been in the mood. (We don’t live together btw.) My boyfriend constantly complains about being pent up, then begs and complains for nudes. I keep telling him, Both not in the mood and sometimes busy. He’ll accuse me that I’m not attracted to him anymore. I’ve talked to my doctor and therapist about my low libido cause the stress I’m getting from my boyfriend. Both say my stress could be coming from the stress or my depression. I’ve even told my boyfriend that but he still complains. It’s getting to the point I wanna break it off just to get a break to myself. What should I do?

Update: We kept talking about it and keeps telling me that is due to his paranoia, due to a previous girl of his. And that his family, his aunt and grandma telling him I don’t care about him. It does seem that way when I’m pulling away because I just don’t want affection. I mean come on I call him everyday even when I don’t want to. Sometimes I just want a day to myself, but when I do he think he’s done something wrong. First of I don’t want him listening to two people from his side of his family that never met me. He found out about this and having me type some of this out. Making this about his paranoia. It’s too much.