I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and throughout the past six months I’ve noticed some changes in our relationship which are making me lose interest.

When we argue, he is much harsher than he used to be. Over text he called me a shit girlfriend, and said he wishes I was how he used to me: “less mouthy”. Today my grandma was in hospital so I couldn’t see him and he said “from now on I’m putting my friends and hobbies before you to see how you like it”. I wouldn’t classify a hospital visit as a hobby.

Whenever we see each other face to face it’s never bad. Usually we talk things over when we’ve argued but he’s usually apologetic. But if he was really apologetic then why does he continue to do it?

I like to think I always tell him face to face why I’m having issues. I always say to him that I wish he’d have a bit more respect when he speaks to me when we’re arguing because I don’t think I ever get that angry. He says he’s sorry then does it again. I really don’t know what to do. I want to resolve things but I feel like I’m fighting a losing battle.