Let me premise this by saying I'm not even engaged yet, we've been together almost 2 years, I'm not ready to be married by any means, but we still talk about it every now and then.

Basically what the title says: I want a wedding but he doesn't. We were talking yesterday and he was saying how if it were up to him he doesn't want a wedding because he's not religious or traditional like that, he doesn't understand the need to spend thousands of dollars on something that only lasts a few hours, and he would much rather just sign the paperwork and go on a vacation (honeymoon). But I've always wanted a wedding, not a big one though. I told him that my parents just eloped at a courthouse and my mom and stepdad did too but I don't want that for myself (not that there's anything wrong with it). Like when I picture my wedding in the future I see 50 people at most, making all my decorations myself, finding a nice dress that fits right (doesn't even have to be a wedding dress per say), etc. And just spending more money on the honeymoon than the actual wedding.

It didn't turn into an argument but it left me feeling uneasy because I don't want the day to come where were engaged and then have the issue pop up again and not be able to compromise. Has anyone else dealt with something like this before? How would a compromise work for this if I already only want a really small wedding to begin with?