Soo my SO and I were hanging out, he was drunk I was sober. We started having sex after he initiated it. He asked if I wanted to do anal bc he has before. I said no not tonight. He said why, I like it? (I've never done it before and he never has mentioned anal before). So we are going at it, doing the deed, then he flips us over and hits it from behind. All of a sudden he licks his finger and i feel a weird pressure in my ass. Then he takes out his dick but then i feel more pressure on my butthole and I think he put his dick in there because he started thrusting and it stung a bit with pressure. Eventually he pulled out and finished etc. Then he passed out. I feel so... traumatized because I had no idea what was going on. I'm not mad, but just feel weird about the situation. Later the next day I texted him asking if he remembered last night and he replied,"yeah is something wrong?"and I was like i was just wondering if that was a drunk thing you like or if you normally like doing that. He replied with umm maybe I don't remember it all. Don't tell me. Let's move on lol.

But like... should I mention it next time we hang out?? I have no idea if he normally likes anal stuff or not. I want to be able to please him and if he likes it I think I should know.

UPDATE: when i say traumatized I don't mean it in the sense of I got raped. I mean it as in I don't know how I can have sex with him again because it all so unexpected and was not talked about thoroughly. Like I said before, I'm not mad about it I'm just very.. confused and conflicted. I didn't know what to do.