I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. We both have come from some trauma. He has a 7 year old boy and a past relationship of 10 years (ended 5 years ago) but the mother still wants him back and is completely crazy. (Alcohol and drug user)

And i went through a domestic violence situation last year when my 2 year relationship ended.

We are very very happy together, but the other day he tells me he doesn’t think he wants anymore kids - he knows I want kids and it’s a deal breaker for me- but I had said that maybe he doesn’t know because he hasn’t fell in blissfully happy love, I am not trying to rush anything. He’s said I know you think I’ll change my mind but I just don’t know if I will, I’m already 33 and I don’t want to be a old dad. (His mom is in her 70s) but how am I supposed to know if it’s right? I didn’t do it right last time and look at what happened 10 years with her and she wasn’t right. Although she was very rude in the relationship and all his friends hated her) and at the end just said well you act like it’s not a big deal but I know it is to you.... I did warn you.... but completely calm. We have never argued or anything it was just pillow talk.

But then the next day he makes a comment about me moving into his house....

So I’m just not sure if I should take it lightly or not because he knows that it is a deal breaker and he knows my family (went to highschool with my sister, worked with my brother) or if I should go into further depth? I feel like his ex is crazy because she knows he won’t completely move on. (She does influence it by telling the son things about his girlfriends) so if he’s never actually had a serious relationship since her she won’t take him seriously and it’s almost like she will always feel more special because she’s the only mother of his child. Nobody can get closer to him than that... not that I’m trying to compete. I just am in love with him and trying to figure this out.