So I’ve been in a relationship just coming up to 3 years, in those 3 years I’ve had doubts about how compatible we truly are (because I experienced ‘crushes’ on other men) however, overall it has been a great relationship and I love my boyfriend very very much.

However, I’m currently going through a big change and feel like I’m transitioning into the next stage of my life. A few months ago I went away for a business trip and met someone who I’ve since become friends with. Recently I have started to have feelings for him and it’s really effecting my relationship and my thoughts. All the problems I knew I had in my current relationship only seem to be magnified and I find myself wanting to be with the said friend I have feelings for more and more.

I’m not sure if this guy even has any kind of feelings towards me back, however, it has made me question whether I should even be in a relationship if I’m capable of feeling so strongly towards someone else. I’m unsure if it is just the period of change which is causing me to feel overwhelmed and almost break everything of my reality that it was, or if I truly am not IN love anymore.

Has anyone experienced anything like this before? I feel so awful, I wish I could go back to just lusting after my boyfriend but I can’t help how I feel towards this other guy :(