The question might be confusing, so let me explain. My 14 year old sister still has to be told to do things, like the dishwasher, to put her shoes away or even fold the blanket shes been using. She wont do any of those things if no one tells her to. My mom shouts at me for not telling her to do stuff instead of having a talk with her and telling her how important helping around the house is, especially since im the one that has to take care of her 3/4 of the day. She wont listen to me and im exhausted, she constantly argues with me. I feel frustrated and helpless. I shouldnt be playing 'mom' at 17, but here we are.