I’m turning 23 next month and my husband is 25 so we are relatively young. We have been talking about trying for a baby next year... like we decided to seriously start considering it in January, probably be trying by June, and definitely be trying by December (or hopefully be pregnant by then).

We haven’t actively talked about this timeline to anyone but each other because we don’t want everyone’s opinions. But I am very close with my mom and have talked to her about “when we have a baby” and implied that it would be relatively soon.

She’s been freaking out, saying we’ll make excellent parents and she can’t wait for a grandbaby BUT she is adamant about us waiting “another 2 years or so” to start trying. Her reasons make sense too I guess... she says I am not in good enough physical health and am too thin to carry a baby safely (I’m 103lbs but Ive been thin my whole life, i just have a very fast metabolism... I get regular periods and everything so it doesn’t affect that) and my mom was also 95lbs when she got pregnant with me and had a very healthy pregnancy... 🤷🏻‍♀️ She also says we should get further in our careers, but as much as I really like my job, I don’t feel like it’s worth delaying my baby for.

On the other hand, I know we’re young but I want to be a mommy so badly. We want to have 3 kids and I feel like we’re so lucky to have found each other so young that we should take advantage of my prime fertility years. In a perfect world I’d like to have my babies at like, 25, 28, and 31. So they can be spaced out a few years but I’ll have them all by the time I’m 32 when my fertility starts to decline.

I FEEL like I’m ready for a baby. But my mom is so often right about everything (😂) that the fact that she has doubts, is making me doubt.

What do you think? I know it’s “our decision” but I value my mom’s opinion so highly. Are her reasons valid? Or would you say only WE (my husband and I) know when we’re ready? Do we start TTC in a few months, or listen to my mom and wait another couple years? :/