I am 27 years old single mom of 3. I am not one that has alot of money. I work and do what I can and appreciate the little that I have. Im gonna try to keep this as brief as possible. Im struggling with dealing with my family of narcissistic. I consider myself to be the "scapegoat" out of the family tree. My brother who is 26 is who I consider the "golden child" he has always been the most dependent on my mother. He ALWAYS defends her and backs her up when he HAS to clearly know she is wrong, and vise versa, These two, My mother and brother are seriously on the verge to putting me in a mental institution, I want to project my situation and ask am I wrong? Is my conclusions accurate? Or am I really the problem? I am by NO means innocent in this situation, But I feel very much so the victim.

By trying to be brief with so much to say. Here's a little back story. My brother and his NOW ex gf were kicked out of where they were living which I always understood why, But when they did my mom who is my brothers hero. She always saves him. She calls the end of November because I just signed a lease the day before to move me and my 2 kids into our new house. I was also pregnant and due in Feb at the time. I already was trying to juggle being pregnant and preparing for the baby, working to pay all my bills and take care of the kids with just my means. Which also my kids are 7 and 8. My 7 yr sons care alone, with his ADHD and GI disease alone is overwhelmingly enough stress. Anyways she calls knowing I am getting a place and when she first mentioned my brother moving in I immediately was angry because I have tried having him live with me before when he had no where to go and he has always left me screwed. High and dry one way or another. He never helps. He's lazy and hes a slob. I love my brother but he IS a raging NARCISSIST just like my mother and the two of them have always blamed me my whole life of everything. I was the bad child. But I really don't think I was. Everyone believed my mother. My brother was fake around people and my mom was so good at making them seem so inncoent. Anyways it took her about a week to fully manipulate me to giving in. Saying he has a really good job( which was true he worked 17 hrs a day. He was making 900$! A week!!!! Remember this fact.) Thats decent money and she was right when she said I needed the extra money and help with bills. He made alot more then me at the time. So its now dec everyone moves in and to start off they never spoke to me. They would come down to eat or go to the bathroom. Nothing else. I felt like I was living with 2 strangers. So to shorten. It was a disaster from the start. His gf was dirty to say the least he was too but she would allow her bloody pads and tampons be torn out of the trash by the dog after begging her to not out them in the trash can my dog had access too and she wouldn't clean them up. Her and my brother woukd literally walk on them to go down stairs and I woukd snap and tell my mom I knew i shouldn't have listened to you. I just knew this was all gonna happen. He ended up cleaning them everytime because I would literslly LEAVE my own house and stay with someone because I literally am the opposite and can't live in a mess. It makes me crazy. I spent months just cleaning up after them and working. My brother would oay 105 every 2 weeks towards rent which was cheap to begin with. It was 210 every 2 weeks. My 2 kids now had to share a room also because they moved in. I sacrificed alot. My brother had so much money and I was about due with my son and had to slow down at work. When I completely had to stop working for the last month due to being sick and very tired on top of stress and depression my bills all started getting very behind. They wouldn't pay shit. He only would pay half the rent NO UTILITIES. Which as much as I left that house because I did not want to be there. It was all from them using heat and showering. I would come home to the thermostat on 89 DEGREES because they were upstairs and it didnt get as warm as down stairs ANYWAYS i ended up having to have a csection. My brother and his gf still the same lazy people. I had the surgery got out of the hospital to come home to no water because he didn't pay it like he was supposed to. We got it back on and I had to go back to work when my newborn was 2 weeks. My brother ends up coming into contact with his ex who moved to Michigan which long story short she got pregnant while they were broke up to someone and he ended up adopting (LEGALLY) her baby. Well he ends up leaving. I mean literally LEAVING my house and going to be with her. He also leaves my bills piled sky high. Takes his last PAYCHECK the day rent was due and was gone. He also left HIS GIRLFRIEND. Who I hated but was a heartbroken mess over my asshole brother who up and left. My mom acts like she cant believe what he has done to her and I. I had to figure out rent and all the bills and now he leaves me with her all while juggling my kids and my surgery all my own problems. So me being either retarded or just genuinely a decent person I get her a job. I tell her to stay and she cant help with bills and she can also stay till she has money saved and back on her feet. She helped and she was doing better. Till my mom calls AGAIN and tells me that my brother was kicked out of this girls house in Michigan and he was depressed broken and homeless. This was just 3 months later. The house was stress free because I didnt have to deal with my brother and mothers narcissism. My mom would always be in the middle of our fights. Blaming me somehow of not worrying my own problems and always worrying about my brother and these fights were almost daily. Since I let him move in he destroyed so much. Including my home. They had put holes in my walls from fighting. They stained my carpets. They got a cat and let its litter box smell so bad and never clean it. Im literally on the edge of a break down that my moms calling me telling me I'm a piece of shit for not letting him come back. His other gf at my house is telling me he wants to come back and be with her. Hes telling me he is mental and hes sorry and wants to come home and go to counseling for an evaluation. Blah blah just him and my mom scheeming, manipulating. Like they do. Im a full blown idiot. I dont know how come I love my brother and mother after are they do. I let him come back. Its been hell. HELLL it's now been about 2 months since he has been back. We are all fighting everyday because I've turned into a miserable ball of anger. I hate them. I dont want them there. But wait his gf that was living there with me and helping before he already got into a fight with. Kicked her out and he literally just brought the girl from Michigan to my house yesterday. When he kicked his ex out apparently she was cheating (like they both do) he screwed me out of every penny I needed for my kids school clothes. They start school in a week and a half and I have nothing. Now look, he don't have a job. he brings this girl and her baby to my house from Michigan. 2 nights ago when he went to michigan to get her he told me to lock my doors and dont let his ex (the one that stayed and helped with bills) back in because she got all her stuff and he didnt want her there. At the time its 1 am I didnt want drama my kids were sleeping. I locked the doors anyways to go to bed. She was told I wasn't home. Suddenly my back door literally was kicked in. She thought no one was home and she was getting her stuff it woke everyone up and suddenly shes upstairs ripping through their bedroom and she has another girl with her. Im just in shock asking her wtf is wrong with her. My phone starts ringing my mom trying to calm me down. Everyone knew what was going on in my house but me. Suddenly she goes to leave and the cops meet her at the door my brother called them. My 7 year old son called her aunt because he adored her. He really bonded with her over time and he literally started having a melt down when she was getting arrested which made my daughter cry my now 6 month old was crying. I had to walk out of my house for a second and meltdown. Im not sad anymore. I have turned so angry. &STILL SINCE THAT NIGHT. I find out he wanted her out because he wanted his ex to come to the house with "their" baby. This is all my mothers fault and shes treating me like shit. Maybe I just need her to be here for me. I'm SERIOUSLY so depressed and hopeless. I just want my family out of my life. I have lost all control of my home. These are people I love and care for. My brother and I were always super close till we grew up. They're ruining my life. My mom somehow is blaming me for everything. Ive become so depressed and manipulated. Im confused. I sometimes am too tired to work from depression. My 6 mon old now has health issues. Schools coming and I have nothing. Also I work for my mom and the last few weeks me and the kids been coming out to my aunts cabin for some fresh air, I been telling her im not working for her because im looking for a new job so she cant hold it over my head anymore :( .. I plan on moving as soon as possible. When i talk about kicking my brother out she threatens to fire me. I also blow up through texts because I don't allow this to be discussed in front of the kids. No fighting when theyre around. They have been exposed to enough. I feel like a failure of a mother for letting this go on for this long. I was trying to help and kept falling under guilt trips and I feel minipulated. Also my brother aint allowed to live with her because my moms husband hates him. I hit a breaking point and went off. Like always. She calls me a pathetic broken record all the time. Idk if im the crazy one or if I am anymore. Almost a whole year of this. I thought id escape them as an adult but they know my heart, they take advantage of me. It hurts.

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