when did you guys figure out where your clit is

i’ve looked at every diagram and felt around and i have no clue where that shit is. you know how it’s a meme that high school boys can’t find the clitoris? i’m my own high school boy. tips would be appreciated🤠 ((edit: i’m thinking about buying a toy of some sort but i’m scared it won’t solve the problem and i’ll get even more bummed about it)