Ok so I story is (sorry this is long, it’s complicated) I’ve been best friends with this girl my whole life.Our moms were best friends. We grew up together and we used to fight soooo bad when we were kids but it was just because we were both strong willed. Anyways, our moms raised us togather and her parents were like parents to me. She was like my sister. I moved away when my mom got remarried but we all stayed in touch and we saw each other frequently as we could. As teenagers we stopped fighting and starting debating and working things out that way. I was always jealous of her pretty looks, I think I tried it make her jealous of me but it never really worked. She was just really sweet and goofy as hell but kind. Then as young adults (like 18-23) her mom started getting on my nerves. I cant really explain why other than to say I felt like she was too controlling. She never approved of My boyfriends, not to say did anything about it but it just bugged me that she didn’t like them. And when I started attending college I changed my mind about my life long dream career. After doing researching I just felt like it wasn’t right for me anymore. She disapproved and wouldn’t let it go. Kept telling me how my original career choice was the right one for me and that I was making a mistake. I felt super disrespected. Idk everything she did after that annoyed me. The family dog bit her horse and she yelled at me to get him away and I felt like that was so rude. She kept saying it was my dog and I needed to get him a better home (he was staying with her) my parents did but him because I begged for a dog but the dog was all of ours and I didn’t like him much anyways. He was obnoxious. To top it all off my mom loaned her a huge amount of money and she was having trouble paying it back. I can’t believe she would take advantage of my mom like that 😒Anyways, we finally ended up in a huge screaming match when we were out wedding dress shopping for my best friend and I had to get out of there. My best friend tracked me down and allowed me to vent to her and I pulled it together enough to finish out the day. After that it was just over for awhile and then all the sudden I got a letter from my best friend that said she couldn’t be friends with me anymore. That she was sorry but it was just too hard between her mom and me and that if I was willing to work on things with her mom then we could try to continue the friendship but right now it was just too hard. I honestly couldn’t believe she would do that to me! I loved her daughter SO MUCH and I was like an aunt to her. I can’t believe she would take her away and cut me off so cold like that. We were friends for over 20 years! And I am NOT willing to reconcile with that wretched women (her mom) so I had to watch her walk away from me. It’s the worst thing to ever happen 😢 that was a few years ago and I’m just wondering, was I wrong to let her walk away? We kinda tried to reconcile about 2 years ago we agreed to talk but then she wanted to bring a 3rd party as a “mediator”. She said it could be a professional to avoid bias judgments but I just couldn’t believe she would think we even needed that. It really hurt my feelings and so I decided we were definitely done. Our moms broke up too because I was so hurt.

Was I in the wrong?

ETA: I know that was her mom and all, shoot that was like my mom too. She was my “second mom”. But I was her sister essentially. How can you just cut off family like that?? I don’t understand why I’m “such a mess” and I was good to my dog. He was abused by my step dad but we still took care of him, he just couldn’t live with me anymore.