You’ll notice I reposted this because of how late I posted it last night and not many saw it lol.

GIRL ADVICE:

A girl that I’ve been friends with since middle school and i recently got back together last summer. Since then we’ve been the best of friends and spent a lot of time together talking about our families and boyfriends, moving, college, etc. Again, we’ve been friends for SEVEN years, and more recently I’ve noticed how toxic she kind of is. In the beginning of us hanging out more, she would hang out with me to get out of the house, shop, etc. Towards this PAST year since January-ish, more and more drama came. She was constantly being toxic to her boyfriend and I’d call her out, she’d take it, so on and so forth. (Y’all, she was bad). Then with all the boyfriend stuff (such as being pissed that he was enjoying a concert that she wasn’t invited to but he was by HIS FRIEND- she ruined his whole night y’all- I had to hear it throughout the evening!). One time we PLANNED a day for us to hang out and shop, and she didn’t have money, so naturally she wouldn’t want to shop. I get that, but we planned this. So on her boyfriends lunch break, she basically forced me out of the store and said were eating lunch with her bf (for like the 30 mins he got anyway) and she dropped me off at my car and sped away to go meet him... basically, I told her how it hurt my feelings, we didn’t talk for a week and she eventually told me she was glad that I texted her frist cause she “wasn’t going to.”

NOW that you have an idea of how she is, more recently this summer she was needing a place to stay. Not desperately, but her mom was in the middle of kicking her out. I felt so empathetic for her because I knew the toxic situation it was, so I let her stay at my apartment for a long time. She didn’t move in, just came during the night. She would often leave cabinets open, her clothes on the floor, the doors and lights all on, food out all night, and didn’t clean it unless I politely and apologetically asked her. This cycle went on for months. Well, she found an apartment and a roommate to move in with. The week leading up, she didn’t talk or text me like we’d always done. But, on the day of the move, she called me st 8 am asking if I was going to help her. She never asked me previously and I found it rude how nonchalant she was about waking me up and asking me, then sounding sad that I was still “sleepy.” The week before I also cleaned her entire room and her mom even asked if SHE was going to help ME. Anyway, I haven’t seen the girl in a month. She used to ask to “hang out” every other night, and I’d drop almost anything to do it because I knew she needed to get away (y’all I put so many miles on my car just taking her to the mountains bc her and her bf got into it 🙄) Anyway, I texted tonight, feeling brave, to see if I’d done something to cause this. I texted beforehand about random funny things we used to joke about, but NO REPLY. Not a big deal, but when I asked if I did anything, she said no. I knew I didn’t, but then she said “I’ve invited you over.” And I was like... “on a night you know I was busy.” And I also told her I invited her over plenty of time. Apparently, she works too much and never has time. I get that, but she has the exact same schedule that she did 6 months ago. Also, after I said that, she never replied. Again, not a big deal but it sends a big message to me.

I’m dealing with this alone, and any advice or thoughts will be humbly appreciated. If I sound in the wrong, please tell me so kindly because I’m apparently blind to it. Thanks anyway, ladies!!