Hi. So today I got a text from my husband informing me that he and a female coworker I haven’t met were going out to lunch during work to talk “work shit.” Then he clarified that she basically wanted to vent about their other coworkers. The text seemed to be more about informing me he was eating out again (we’ve been trying to do that less), and not as much about the fact that he was going to be having lunch alone with her. He knows I have some anxieties surrounding this that I am working on in counseling (my father had an affair with a woman I considered a second mom, double betrayal, and my high school boyfriend also cheated on me, as well as my husband having been unfaithful in previous relationships prior to us getting together). He has never been unfaithful to me, but I have always been careful around our boundaries and being honest about my feelings. He gets along with women easily and they often gravitate towards him because he’s very sweet and empathetic.

What bothers me most about this situation is that I don’t know her and she specifically wanted to have lunch with him so she could complain about other people they work with. She is newer there so I am not sure why she feels she needs to talk to my husband about this unless they’re closer than I know about.

I have had a pit in my stomach about it and I don’t know if I should talk to him about it or not 😣

Ps I will talk to my counselor about it at our appointment tomorrow but I can’t stop thinking about it and could use some advice and support. Thanks ❤️