Okay. So this sucks on so many levels. I'm a SAHM with a 6yo step daughter and currently pregnant with b/g twins due mid Nov.

And...I hate my 6 year old and I don't want to. But I really do. She was raised by my husbands family for a little while after he discovered he had her. (Long story but her mom never told him she was pregnant, then later after her death he discovered he was a dad) He wanted to make sure he could care for her prior to taking on her care.

Well when we got together and had been together for a bit we decided to bring her home. Well she does not listen, she is obstinent and basically everything a 6 year old would do that is normal. And I can not bond with her. Her laugh annoys me, her high pitch voice grates my nerves and I'm scared I'm not going to be a good mother to her.

I feel my little ones growing inside me and have so much love for them but just cant seem to bond with this little girl. I'm at a loss of what to do. I genuinely dislike this child and know it needs to change but just dont know what to do to fix the problem.

Please help! Also I don't need judgment I need advice I'm already beating myself up enough over this. And my mother was no help she basically yelled at me and said how dare I not like her... Which just made me feel like dirt.