i’m only 14. that being said, my orientation for freshman year was today. we were told to be dropped off and picked up at a lot. now, my school is really big, and a and c lot are on opposite sides of campus. it’s about a ten minute walk to get to one from the other. so when my brother texted me saying to go to c lot instead of a, i asked him to please pick me up at a. it was 90 degrees, i was wearing two shirts, and it’s just overall annoying to walk all the way across campus.

my brother is 21. he went to college for a year before leaving because he felt burnt out. he hasn’t been back for 3 years, so that makes some tension in the house. he can be very aggressive and even abusive at points to my mother and i.

i asked my dad to ask my brother to please drop me off/pick me up from a lot during the school year to avoid being late and also just because, well, it’s not ideal to walk for 10 minutes on a school day at 7 am with a huge backpack.

my dad did as i asked and asked my brother to just go to a lot. it’s not that hard to drive for an extra 3 minutes, and the school rules also state that high schoolers need to be dropped off there. my brother blew it way out of proportion and started screaming and yelling at my dad. i wasn’t in the room for this. i was in mine, talking to a friend on the phone to distract myself. the conversation blew so out of proportion and my brother was so rude that my dad took his phone, wallet, and car keys before telling him to get out of the house. my mom came in and told me what was happening and i felt so guilty.

is this my fault? i really don’t know what to think. i don’t know whether to apologize to him or not tomorrow. any advice?