How can I say this to my guests without sounding rude?

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I am working on my registry for my baby shower. I know how people get when there's a baby to buy for. They like to skip the registry and just buy cute clothes and stuffed animals. My husband and I are working really hard on this registry and would really like guests to stick to it. We also already have tons of things that I started buying throughout my pregnancy and even before I got pregnant. Also, we could really use some help with the larger items, so I want to somehow mention that, although we would appreciate anything anyone decides to give us, we would appreciate it even more if maybe a group of people got together and pitched in on one of the bigger items, rather than each of those people buy a couple outfits or blankets. Does that make sense? I just don't want to come across as rude or ungrateful.
*I forgot to add, i wouldn't put it on the invite or anything, and I wouldn't tell every person, just really close family and friends. I was thinking maybe mention it to my mom and mother in law, and let them mention it to siblings or something? I don't know. I'm not expecting everyone to even bring a gift, just that if they choose to, please stick to the registry.

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I get what your saying, but you can’t specially ask people to do that. I can’t think of a way that wouldn’t sound tacky to request that. People do what they want

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I kinda think it is rude to expect the expensive items to be gifted..

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My baby shower invite said “kindly, no clothes”
And I just got a baby shower invite that said kindly no children
It’s fine. Put it

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A friend of mine did this and was so tactful! I can't remember how she phrased it! She explained they were cloth diapering so please no disposable diapers and that they already had a ton of clothes so please no clothes. She also asked if children's books with a note from the giver could be given in place of cards so the baby would have words of encouragement or advice as he got older.
I really wish I remembered how she said it!

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I wouldn’t ever tell people to do that just cause it’s such a hard thing to word without sounding eh. Maybe just speak to your mum and say if anyone asks what we are needing maybe offer them this idea.
Or forget the registry and do a wishing well, that way you can just get money or gift cards and buy what you actually want

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Try write something along the lines of:
We already have baby clothes
We already have baby toys
We have a registry at ... please take advantage of our organization skills and choose items from our registry - it would be a great help to us if a few of you got together and pooled your contributions towards some of the much needed larger items. 
What ever you contribute please know that your contribution is very much appreciated. 
I feel like you just gotta say it otherwise ppl won’t know exactly what it is your wanting 🤷🏽‍♀️

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I did a “gift card & diaper shower,” a few years back. Got enough gift cards to buy a crib and then some... just ask for those, because there is no way to tactfully ask specifically for guests to follow the registry and/or contribute to larger items.

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I’d put gift cards are greatly appreciated. That way you can buy what you really need for the baby.

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My sister thought the same thing and she got all the big stuff! Now she needs the little stuff like rags and baby bath

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I would put it on the invitation as It would be very much appreciated if you could please try to stick to the registry. Then you could also casually throw it in conversations that you would appreciate if people could pool together and buy the big ticket items it would help you out a lot.