Abusive husband

What do you do when you have a mentally, physically, verbally, emotionally abusive husband? Oh duh of course the answer is always leave 😒ok well what if it’s not that easy? What if you have dedicated damn near your whole life to only this one person? What do you do when you feel as if you still need this person sooo much you’ll put up with the abuse? What if you tell that person their abusive and they either apologized or get defensive about what your saying ? Just what if. Well that’s me and my story. When it’s good between my husband and I, it’s good but OH when it’s BAD it’s BAD 😳. I guess I try to harbor the good so much I try to blank out the bad, but am I being a hypocrite to myself or dumb 🤔. I hate to see couples fight but here I am the one fighting to defend myself. I’ve been with my husband 10 years married 2 and it seems we’ve always fought 😔. I really just wanted to express myself without being yelled at in my face at least so I guess this is where I ended. Anywho. All of those out there if you’ve had a good day so far may it continue to be good. And those who’ve been having a hard time always remember “this to shall pass” and all blessings aren’t seen by sight so hold on and appreciate the blessings you do have. 🙏🏾🥰✌🏾