how to get my husband to do his share?

edit: i have to point out that the chore list was HIS idea. i didnt want to do it because it seems really childish but he asked for it because he has adhd and said it would help him remember. I refused to do it for months but got desperate and agreed eventually. it did nothing. theres only 5 things on it that are his job: dishes, vaccuming, trash, car maintenance, and certain date nights. he doesnt do the date nights, we end up doing car maintenance together, and like i said he does take out the trash. but the dishes and vaccuming hardly ever. and we also made the list together so it wasnt just me telling him what to do. the 3 house chores on there are simply things i cant physically do without intense pain. that's it. i also can't drive so we do the grocery shopping together.

..................................................

I've tried making a chore list for each of us(he does not look at it), I've tried just asking once and letting him see the mess and not interfering---one of his jobs is dishes and all it results in are dishes in the sink for literally 4 or 5 days straight until I beg him to do it that very day because I can't cook with no dishes, same with vacuuming. he's supposed to do that every 2 days (we live in 400 sq ft so it is necessary) but he never ever does. he only does it if I say "can you do this today?" he never remembers what needs to get done in general and every trip to the grocery store is filled with complaints about when we get to leave, even though he also has the grocery list on his phone. this always leads to rushing and me forgetting things and then we have to go back. the only thing he does with consistency is take out the trash. what else can I try? I'm disabled, pregnant, and exhausted of feeling resentful and having to ask him multiple times to do everything.