Does relationship counseling work?

Question

My boyfriend of 4.5 years and I decided to have a baby...I always thought he would propose but he hasn’t. Well baby is here and we love her to pieces but it’s been really hard on our relationship. We fight a lot usually about having time to relax or unwind. I asked him last night if he wanted to go to counseling and he said he would try it because things have gotten so bad. I asked him why he never asked me to marry him and he said I don’t want to make that commitment to you right but I did a year ago. He says you don’t need a relationship to raise a baby and he could do it without me. Obviously that breaks my heart. Question is does counseling help or possibly make things worse? Does the therapist ever just encourage you to break up?

Answer

It depends on several things like:
Why you're going.
How seriously you take it.
How much you use the tools and apply the lessons you learn to your relationship,  etc.
This is like asking "Does the home improvement store work"..
That sentence doesn't make any sense. It depends on what you need, what tools you purchase, how you choose to use them.
The home improvement store is where you get the tools to build a house. Whether or not you do build a house is up to you and how you choose to use the tools you get.
Relationship counseling is whwre you get the tools to build a healthy relationship. Whether or not you do build a healthy relationship is up to you and how you choose to use the tools you learn.

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I think it works in both way helping couple work things out but also helping them both realize its not going to work out but leave on good terms

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I agree. It has both positive and negative potentials. Both parties have to want the help and the change and make the effort not just one person. If it’s one sided they realize this isn’t what they really want. If both want to work things out and are willing to put in the effort then it can help. After the comment about not wanting to make the commitment and raising a kid on his own, makes it sound like you are the only one that wants this and he’s sticking around for the kid for now. And has no intention of marrying you. And you may just be delaying the inevitable. He realizes he could just co-parent and not have to deal with the responsibility of a relationship already and you haven’t even started therapy. Just be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Always have a back up plan. Money in savings for emergencies, family or friends invite to stay with them if things don’t work out. And if they don’t start child support and custody packets at the family court immediately. I’m sorry.

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Worth a shot

Does relationship counseling work?

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