Need to VENT

I’m genuinely so annoyed y’all.

Back story, my fiancé and I are the only ones out of our friend group to live on our own. Our friend group consists of 2 of my long time friends, a long time friend of his and his younger sister. Our other friends and his sister are all 22+ years old, not in school, barely working minimum wage jobs and they live at home where their parents pay their bills. Which I respect cause trust me- I wish that was me 😂

When we moved in everyone always came over and we’d have game nights or we were the house someone came to when they needed to escape their house. I was fine with that. I’ve always wanted to be able to do that for people.

One friend in particular, we’ll call her Layla, was always here. Her and I were kind of friends as teenagers and recently just got close this past winter. She’s unemployed and just would stay on our couch for weeks at a time. If we went out to dinner, we’d take her. If she needed a ride, we’d bring her. And we did it because we love her and did not want her to struggle.

However, her and our other friends (we’ll call Matt and Will) started taking advantage. They’d just show up to our house, get wrecked and stay up blaring music till 2 am when my fiancé and I had work.

I ended up getting sick of everyone and left all group chats and didn’t really talk to anyone. I was very overwhelmed with work and in a super dark place and was very depressed and suicidal, and asked just one friend to hang out with me because I was scared of being alone. No one answered me but proceeded to go out to a bar and invite MY friend they had only met once.

Slowly but surely everyone started to leak back in and I was just too nice to keep them out. They all only care about drinking and getting wrecked, but I don’t drink very often. Maybe once a month- if that. So they all call me lame and told me I changed and that I’m boring and all I do is work and ditch them.

And now more than ever- they’ll blatantly make plans in a group chat and exclude my fiancé and I. Which okay fine we didn’t go out once, why bother inviting everyone every time. So I tried to make plans and everyone said they’re busy- yet ended up going out together. Will went back to school today in a state in the Midwest- so last night I wanted to do something, they all said they didn’t wanna go. So last night when I’m in bed, I’m checking Snapchat- they’re all at Dave and Busters.

But now that Will went back to school- the other two are trying to make plans. Layla especially goes “Hey now that he’s back in school, I’m coming to stay with you again!”

Like....WHAT

Am I overreacting? Or are the people in my life just shitty? I’m frustrated y’all. I feel like all I do is give, give, give and the one time I need to take - everyone fucks me over.