Performance Anxiety?

It seems like everyone on here has pretty fulfilling sex lives so I might be on my own here, but I’m just wondering if anyone may be in similar shoes and have any advice on men that can’t get erections. My husband and I aren’t intimate that often, but never had problems in the past when we would have sex. But now that we are trying to conceive he can’t get an erection every time we try. He really wants us to get pregnant but he puts so much pressure on himself to perform and then he can’t, and then he just gets worked up in his head and it’s a spiraling problem. I’ve tried everything I can think of that he is ok with (foreplay, lingerie, sensual massaging). Hes super granola and only likes things a certain way, so he isn’t interested in trying like watching porn together, toys, role play, anything out of our ordinary lol. I know that’s probably weird. Just wondering if anyone has experience with & advice on helping men with performance anxiety? His health could be a factor as well but I think it’s mostly psychological. We just started trying this summer but we both get upset when my ovulation days come and go and we fail at having sex :(