I'm 28 and the last day has been hell on me. I've been with my husband for 9 years now, 3 of which we've been married. We had a small little happy family. Together we care for my 20 year incapacitated cousin whom I have guardianship of. Everything had been great up until yesterday. I'm terrible at communication, so when I have concerns I tend to let them build up.

The past week I've been cleaning out my closets to get rid of unwanted clothes. Our room is a mess with clothing bags, dirty clothes, and trash from us eating in our room. Well I became irate because he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with he and his brother. I immediately became irate but held it in and said sure. I cried and got myself together. At that moment I cried because I was doing everything by myself and didn't feel appreciated.

We then had an argument and it felt more like me yelling at him and he just taking it all in. And he never said anything. I told him I didn't think this was going to work out because I care more about marriage. Which in honesty I do believe. I'm focused on the future and he just works, plays/works on his hobby, and sleeps. I try saving money but I cannot because I have to pay the bills. I work full time and this time I didn't pick up overtime because I was tired and it hurt us. I even had to get a payday loan. He works part time and gets paid every week but spends it on the hobby, food, and gas.

Trying to talk to him about this is getting nowhere. We've had these arguments before but I'm not a quitter, so I'd continue to try and fix things. This time I just don't have it in me as I once did. I just need advice.

Edit: I have had this conversation with my husband in person, but I tend to overthink and worry, so I texted him again. Yes, I shouldn't have encouraged him to text and drive. That's very bad on my part.