So when my son was born and a few months following that, I remember how sweet and understanding my husband was. He would check in on me, help me with whatever I needed, let me take a nap, etc. Lately though...he hasn't even asked how my day went. He works for a solar company and I know and understand how tough that is so I make sure to keep the house tidy, clean his work clothes, ask how his day went, make him food, etc. When he gets home I make sure he has some time to relax, but we all no there's really no such thing when it comes to being a parent, right? Wrong. He sits at his computer and plays video games or watches something and doesn't even bother tending to our son when he starts fussing. I have to ask him to and when I do he throws a hissy fit about it and starts to go off about what he had to do at work and all he wants to do it relax. So I let him relax for a few more hours. When I tell him about my day he seems disinterested and when I ask him if I can go take a little nap because I am exhusated he just says, "That sucks." Or "Welcome to parenthood."

...like are you fucking kidding me? For one, he gets to sleep through the night every night. He has also gotten the habit of whenever he actually takes care of our son for longer than a few hours, he can barely handle it and he uses it as ammo later..."Well I had to do this and that blah blah blah." And then he has the nerve to tell me, "Well at least you get to relax with him and take naps and stuff. It's easy. I've taken care of him before; you wake up, feed him, play with him, he takes a nap, play with him again and then bedtime." Umm no it is not relaxing because I also have to make sure the house is clean and try to have food ready. I always try to talk to him but it hasn't worked. He just goes, "Well do you want to go lift solar panels and shit all day?" Honestly if it means a break from motherhood for a few hours, yes. I at no point ever invalidated how hard his work is, but he has been invalidating my emotions and what I do as a mother. It's just seems to be getting worse. He's becoming more selfish and insensitive. I know he stressed, but there's no reason to be acting this way towards me or our son...i have been getting so frustrated and overwhelmed that I breakdown and sob. I feel like I don't have a partner anymore rather just someone else to take care of and who I'm married to.