is this a set up?!?

Question

My ex husband, the father of my child abused me during pregnancy and while I was pregnant I left.
Now nearly 4 years later I'm still a single mum and I've only ever heard from my "brother in law" once and that was on the xbox over a year ago while we were all on goodish terms playing a game.
However, recently the contact between me and my ex has faded he has since moved on without telling me and so I blocked him from everything because I was reminded how much of a horrible toxic person he is.
Two days after removing him his brother pops up out of nowhere and asks me a question. He says how he is now a newly wed and his wife is less than 3 months pregnant, they'll be immigrating to Germany where she will live with him while he becomes a stay at home dad.
He explained that while they're on route to Germany they've decided to visit the UK for 2 weeks but thought seeing my kid would just be a big bonus.
Now my ex husbands bother fucked him up mentally and his brother. They both speak all the time and I said that too him when we talked last night he said they apparently never discuss serious stuff, which I find hard to believe.
He is going on like my ex won't know he is visiting me and my kid if I don't want him to, tbh I don't ever want that risk of the babies father doing all of this as a set up, as a trick to get me to a location so he can see his own kid.
It's all fucked up and really weird tbh. The fact me and his brother have literally NEVER exchanged proper conversation and he knows nothing about my kid now he wants to be a good uncle? Something seems off to me.
Also his brother is an alcoholic and everyone I've discussed this with is saying if I meet him not to go alone incase it is a trick. Dude I'm not putting myself through that, or risking mine my kids safety. 
It's all weird as hell. If he spoke up when I was first a single parent and we got to know eachother then I'd be more okay with the idea but the fact that 2 days after I remove my ex from everything Everything, his brother just throws this proposal? Mm hmm. 
What the hell should I do?
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Facts about the dad. 
×He is a deadbeat dad
×Never asks or cares for his own kid
×Never paid child support
×has never visited our kid

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Nope. Stop contact. You don't owe him shit. They don't need to know where you live, especially if they're this unstable. Block contact and move on

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I wouldn't do it if I were you. Your ex was abusive and its not worth the risk. Sometimes its better to not have contact with anyone rather than risking opening that door.

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Or his newly wedded wife has interest and wanted him to pursue this so their child could have a cousin, but she felt uncomfortable contacting you considering.

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Iv literally just went through this with my babys uncle, bit of a different situation as his dad wasnt abusive tho. I was really weary about it at the start, i didnt want to do it for my boy to be let down in the future from him. I also didnt want his dad finding out my adress either. 
I ended up meeting with his uncle at my friends house (her idea) with her there. We talked and he told me he wasnt in contact with his brother etc. 
I had this awful gut feeling something wasnt right.
A few weeks later i seen a post on his fb were my babies dad had tagged his brother in a picture of his kids. I straight away contacted the brother and said to him about it and about lying to me. Iv told him iv tried, he lied and hes lost my trust. 
If you dont feel comfortable or something doesnt feel right dont do it.
Its not worth the risk.

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No cut him off

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My ex is a total deadbeat as well. His family never liked me because "I was lieing about the abuse and I was the reason he was a drug addict ". Three years later his sister messaged me to see our daughter. Before she was allowed to see my daughter, my exs sister and I met up and had a long talk about everything I was feeling and rules I needed in place ( dont talk about the sperm donor, dont have him there, no sending him pics etc.)she agreed to it all  our first few meetings we went do a park,and now its been about a year and a half and my daughter goes to her aunt's house for a few hours once a month. I love that even though her sperm donor isnt there my daughter has someone to go to with questions about that part of her (ex medical history). Noone can tell you what you should or shouldn't do but even if you do consider it I'd suggest you going to meet them without your child and really lay out any expectations that you have

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Being you have a kid, mother to mother, my best is advise is,
If you don't even feel safe enough to go alone you shouldn't go at all. Dont risk putting your child in danger when all the red flags are there. And for what? You don't owe these people shit and you should drop all acts of communication NOW. This sounds like a horrible situation and if it feels wrong, trust me, IT IS. There's no reason to see every reason why its a bad idea just to do it anyways, that's foolish and ignorant. Don't do it!! At all. Not at a police station, not with a therapist, not with a family member, don't do it AT ALL. That's not ok. Lets be honest, regardless of what type of abuse it was, if he was abusive then who knows what he's still capable of. All of this could very well be a lie any how. Abusive people are NEVER to be trusted.  Especially with children this sounds like a disaster waiting to happen!

is this a set up?!?

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