Guys need to be entertained so they don’t cheat?

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I’d like to get womens opinions on this. From both women with kids and women without.
(I don’t have any kids, not married and I’m super young so I don’t have many responsibilities outside of my corporate 9-5)
I always feel uncomfortable reading stuff about men complaining their wives are “no longer fun” when kids enter the picture. In these cases you find that the woman is doing 90% of the childcare AND domestic labor. Now while juggling that, how pray tell does one add the extra responsibility of being “fun” to entertain the man? 
Do you agree that if the responsibilities were split evenly, you’d have more time to just breathe! And feel like your only identity isn’t “mother”. You’d have time to get your nails done, feel/look sexy, plan fun stuff for you and your guy etc because you’re not drowning in responsibility and baby poop seeing as the work is being shared. 
I just find it extremely unfair that women are saddled with SO MUCH responsibility, some even while also working a full time job! And then you are encouraged to add entertaining the guy to this list so that he doesn’t “loose interest”. There are actually people who will blame you if the guy ends up cheating. It’s all just sounds too much! I really admire women who are able to handle all these things, you guys are superheroes! But I also don’t want all women to have to be superheroes and juggle an insane amount of responsibilities. It’s difficult and the wear and tear on your body/ mind starts to show. Studies even show that women who are partnered with kids have shorter lifespans than women who aren’t. Ive noticed a lot of young women are no longer interested in marriage and I think this plays a huge part.
What do you ladies think? I’d appreciate if you said whether or not you have kids in your comment (you obviously don’t have to if you don’t want to)

( I’ve observed a couple of women on this app fancy themselves as comment warriors. Always ready with the pitchforks to abuse others. If that’s you pls keep that negativity away from this post. I’m just trying to start a dialogue)

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I'm married, I've been and lived with my husband for over 4 years, married going on 3. No kids 
I can't speak for all men, just my own husband, but he's not a dog who needs a toy. He's a grown man capable of taking responsibility for himself, capable of staying commited, and capable of finding a hobby to keep him entertained if he needs it. My job as a wife isn't to run a circus act or slap makeup on my face so that he won't run off. That's his own responsibility completely unrelated to how I look or what I do. I'm his wife, not a tv. Commitment is owed to your spouse, not something they have to earn. It's a given, not a favor. 
Yes, life can become routine and mundane with the daily stresses that come with, well, existing and being an adult. That's absolutely no reason to cheat. Yes, mom's need a break and help, and spouses need to nurture themselves and thier relationship. But cheating isn't what you do when that's not happening. You have understanding and patience, and you work with your spouse to adjust things as needed so that you're both getting what you need.
Life's going to get busy/rocky/unbalanced sometimes. But one of the joys of having a spouse is having someone you trust be in your corner during it. The last thing you need when life is tough is having a spouse that you have to worry about hurting you 
And yes, we're both in full agreement with everything said above. It's not hard to not cheat. If it is, you need to reconsider your relationship

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Idk I think this topic can go both ways yes in relationships you need to keep each other interested ... I would hate it if my husband stopped trying I believe more in equity over equality I think women put this on themselves then complain how hard life is I have my own business but when I had my first 2 kids I did not work I stayed home with my kids and in my religion if a woman chooses to work the money she makes is for her and it’s the husbands responsibility for the house and kids completely if the woman chooses to help it’s her choice but ultimately is not responsible for that with that being said she also can’t work if it takes away from her kids and family so now I’m pregnant I still have my business I just calmed down a lot on being there I hired a manager to help so I can enjoy being pregnant and with my family .... personally I think most women feel like they have so much to “prove” then complain about it later 🤷🏻‍♀️ I understand some women have no choice which is understandable but in my opinion you can’t choose that ur gonna play the role of superwoman just to complain about it yes I love getting dressed up and looking pretty doing makeup for my husband I’m a cosmetologist so it’s a hobby anyways but yes in the end I believe women have to keep men interested and men have to keep women interested it goes both ways cuz women cheat too

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Who's entertaining me so I don't cheat if that's the case 😂

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I think its bollocks, mainly coz females cheat too. 
People cheat because the opportunity and temptation is there and they choose to act on it.

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Funny how this is being brought up. My husband has recently started telling me that I’m boring, don’t like to have fun, don’t like to do anything, and just want to stay home all the time and I’m an old lady. We have a 2 year old and I am currently 26 weeks pregnant so I am pretty much tired all the time. I will 10000% say I would be much more different if my husband helped out with my son. Whenever we go out, I am the one that is constantly watching over my son and he doesn’t even bother to. Before getting pregnant, he would drink and I wouldn’t because someone has to watch our son. We’d go to friends house, he’d be outside drinking while I’m inside watching over our son and as soon as our little one would start whining, his solution was to put him to sleep and there’s been several times he gets upset because I ask to leave because of our little one or because I’m tired. I recently started to worry that he would cheat because he obviously no longer finds me fun but honestly, it will be his loss if he decides to do that. I’ve made him aware that my priority are my kids and him but if he doesn’t like it and I’m “too boring” then idk.

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I have an interesting story, my partner has cheated before on his ex. He wasn’t happy in the relationship and has been very honest and open with me about his past. We’ve been together 2 years and have a newborn baby. We have a totally different relationship compared to his last one. We are as equal as we can be. Things have changed now but that’s because I’m staying home with our baby. He helps out as much as he can but also works hard. We both put effort into this relationship. Where as his last one neither of them really tried. I think if you truly love someone and want to make it work, you’ll do everything you can to be happy.

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Married with four month old baby. Been together for 3 years. We talk everyday about our thoughts, feelings and relationship goals. I think we both put in effort to “entertain” each other. Sometimes we’re spontaneous and other times we need to schedule intimate times. After all the grass is greener where it’s watered.

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I just read a post on here from a man expressing his disinterest in his wife. You should read it!

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I have one baby boy, almost a year old. I'm currently still not back to work after mat leave but I go back in a few weeks. My fiance, with his work schedule, most days does not get a chance to help me with our boy. He either leaves before he wakes up, or during his nap, or doesn't get home til after he's in bed, so most of the responsibilities can't be shared for that reason. 
I don't believe that men, or women for that matter, cheat because their partner isn't fun, but i do believe they cheat because they aren't getting something they need. There are different forms of cheating, and different reasons for cheating. If a person needs a partner that is "fun" and they are stuck in a "mundane" day to day life, that could be a reason to cheat. I don't really think that there's ever a good reason for anyone to cheat. If you get to the point in your relationship where you start considering cheating, then you need to talk to your partner about what is driving you to think that way and try to resolve the issue. If you aren't happy, or your issues can't be resolved, then end the relationship and allow both people to move on. 
I guess I'm rambling a bit, and not entirely sure if I answered your question or not! But I haven't ever considered cheating on my fiance because our household duties aren't 50/50. He brings him the pay cheque, I take care of the house and kid (for now). 
Interesting topic!

Guys need to be entertained so they don’t cheat?

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