‼️UPDATE‼️

SORRY FOR THE EXTREMELY LONG POST

Sorry if I hadn’t posted an update things have just been extremely stressful and hard on me but finally got the chance to update my previous post. As you ladies read before I found out the father of my children had been cheating on me with several different women. I sent him pictures of the messages that I found of him making plans with other girls and of him requesting nudes from them and the only reply he could come up with was “Why the f### are you checking my phone I don’t check your phone” After that I grabbed some clothes for my son and I and left to my moms house I was embarrassed to go over to her house but she gave me my space I opened up to her and my dad later and told them and they gave me their point of view on things and said it was all my choice. I decided not to go back because this is the second time he’s done something similiar even after he promised the first time it happened that he would treat me better and wouldn’t do it again. I didn’t go back which made him extremely mad he even asked his older brother to talk to me and try to convince me to go back to the house which I didn’t when I finally went back to pick up our belongings which I had previously packed I had my mom and dad go with me and his brother was there as well when I showed his brother the pictures and told him the reason why I left all he did was shrug his shoulders and say “I don’t care” About two weeks ago the father of my kids calls me wanting me to let him borrow my son and I told him “You know where I’m staying you can come see him here and see him for as long as you want.” When I told him that he cussed me out and said I was never getting any help from him or his family. He’s always “jokingly” said that he’s not the father of our son and daughter which honestly always broke my heart because he knows even thru all his cheating and problems I have stayed faithful to him. I know a lot of you ladies told me in my previous post to pack his stuff and kick him out but I have a loving and supportive family system to fall back on, and although I’m at a high risk pregnancy and I don’t have to according to my parents and siblings I’m already working ive always been the type of woman to not depend on anyone so I’m totally okay with working. I’ve gone thru his cheating once and I forgave him for that but not this time especially after everything that i saw.

Original Post: (Posted July 1st)

Yes I’m beyond heartbroken. Just a couple of hours ago I found out Im getting cheated on and played around with by my boyfriend and father of our two year old and just this past week found out we’ll be welcoming a little princess in December(which I’m extremely blessed and excited for especially because we were always told it’d be hard for us to conceive.) He doesn’t know I found out yet I honestly don’t know what to do... he recently upgraded phones and his old phone is still connected to our home WiFi and while I was cleaning I kept hearing a chirping sound and decided to follow the sound thinking my son had left his iPad turned on I found his phone in a drawer in our bedroom and it was notifications from Messenger when I was finally able to bypass his passcode(I was a phone technician so it wasn’t that hard for me) I found a ton of messages from several women where he had met up with them or had sex, asking for nudes, sending some of those girls nudes as well. We’ve been together for four years and I’ve been loyal to him thru out our relationship I’ve been there for him thru all of his problems. He is currently working out of town he comes back to check on us Wednesday’s and comes and stays weekends with our son and I. & yes I take good care of him his clothes is clean, house is clean, I never nag when he wants to have intercourse I just can’t seem to understand why he would look for other women. I feel like he gets bored of me because I really don’t drink and from the messages those girls all seem to be party type of girls. I honestly don’t know what to think/feel, I think he’s gotten bored so he’s starting to look elsewhere for that spark I thought we had but I’m guessing it’s burnt out. I don’t know what to do, what to think my hormones are all over the place especially with me having a high risk pregnancy he left this morning and won’t be back in town till Wednesday afternoon for the holiday weekend. Any advice you ladies can give me?