I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years, in the beginning like all relationships it was so good he always took me out, I always planned vacations. At 20 I got pregnant unexpectedly, we decided to keep the baby he moved in with my family (our families are very close) but he would come and go from his house to mine which is about 45 mins. Which I understood but wasn’t always happy about it because I was pregnant and hormonal we never really did anything and I was home on disability due to my pregnancy, no sex either. He seemed fine about it after we had the baby I got very sick and he didn’t help me as much, honestly his mom helped me out more than him. Even during my labor which was 25 hours he was on his phone, sleeping I would be having contractions and he wouldn’t pay attention his mom and my mom got me through my delivery. He slept through the whole night the baby was born just as I did. He slept most of the time there.

Fast forward two months after the baby is born and I found out he had a crush on my sister, whose older than me. He told me he use to get hard when she was in her robe and checked her out more than once I remember one time we went out to dinner after the baby was born and I asked him if he remember what I wore he said no, but he remembers a specific day what my sister wore and thought “she looked good”. I was prying all of this information out of him. It was a rough year but I decided to stay with him after all of that. We got our own apartment and moved out a few months later which I thought would help me get over the situation, we saw a therapist as well but not for too long.

Our relationship was good after. But months later we have many fights because he doesn’t plan to do anything for me, take me out, or anything. Which I NEVER expect to be taken out everyday but once a month is fine. Or plan a day with me and his son to go out. I have planned every vacation, every outing. For his birthday I go all out throwing parties and making sure he’s happy, surprised and enjoys himself. Never once has he done it for me.

I’m currently 30 weeks pregnant last week he had his tonsils out I took care of him cooked clean everything while taking care of our sick 3 year old. It’s not a question I’ve been having severe leg pain and diagnosed with sciatica and he barely helps me out he just sits on the couch and waits for me to do everything he will eat. Be done and see me eating while feeding our toddler and just watches tv, he is so lazy. We’ve had many, MANY talks n he changes for a few days then back to the same bs, I know he loves me but he has mentioned that he’s comfortable in our relationship. I’m starting to loose patience with him. He’s a very hard worker he works 13 hours a day and I get it but at the same time I can’t deal with that being an excuse anymore.