physical attraction and emotional connection are vital in a relationship for me. they don’t have to be attractive in society’s standards. my ex was hot to me, yet he’d probably be a 4 or 5 out of 10. maybe 6? idk i can’t judge. his body wasnt in shape and his hair was always a mess and he didn’t wash his face well but i was generally attracted to him.

there’s a guy that i really really want to like, he’s always been there for me but i’m just not attracted to him like that? he’s skinnier and shorter than my ex, yet more emotionally available. he’s better, but lacking physically for me i guess?

is there a way to trick myself into being more attracted to him?