Why do you care if he cheats?

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To my knowledge my husband has never been unfaithful to me neither before or after marriage. But I often think to myself, if he ever does commit adultery, why would I care?
My husband has always been known to be the good guy. He was quite the lady’s man back in high school. We have been together since we were young. He dated quite a few girls in our home town and surrounding areas. We’re from a really small town so I know all of those girls and all of those girls know me. I can still feel the tension when we go out in public and I see them. Marrying him was almost like winning the game and carrying around the trophy. Despite him being so popular with the women, he’s always been known to be faithful. A good man, a good husband. 
Almost every girl he dated before has some kind of screwed up life and nothing going for them. Me? I have a degree and a very successful, rewarding career, despite my background. I indeed do feel like I won. Won the guy, won the career, won in life... while they didn’t. 
So, I believe the reason I would be upset about my husband commuting adultery is the humiliation. How I would be made out to be such a fool. I would no longer be the one who won anymore. I wouldn’t be any better than the other girls with fucked up lives and adulterous husbands. God forbid it’s with one of his ex’s. Sleeping with my husband all the while I’m thinking that I’m the winner.
We don’t have children so there’s no family to tear apart. 
I’m young and successful so I’m not worried about not being able to find someone else. 
But will not be made a fool. 
So, my question is, why would YOU care?
I know I have a fucked up mind.

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That’s a crazy way of thinking about it. It’s all about status and less about the love you have for each other. 
I’d care because I love and trust my husband and we have made a commitment to each other. So I’d feel hurt and betrayed by him.

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You got a point there. I agree. I wouldn’t care. I would be successful on my own, I wouldn’t need him to love my life. I don’t even think it’d be humiliating for me. It would be for him. He’s losing me over some random chick and that’s okay :)

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It's not about looking like a fool or feeling humiliated. It's about the lack of respect, and feeling disappointed, let down, the deceit, and it could also put doubts in your head about why it happened and leave you thinking why you weren't enough. But like you said it's never happened to you so until it does you have no idea how you would feel. If you truly loved someone and they cheated on you, you would feel heartache.

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Trust. If my husband cheated on me he would ruin the trust I had for him. I would feel so betrayed because this whole time I thought it was just me and it wasn’t. I would rather he just tell me he’s over me and then leave.

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I would care because my husband and I have a very close and open communication relationship. I think that I would feel betrayed and lied to. If the cheating was something emotional, I’d be hurt because he could have taken the route to talk with me about it. We could have discussed splitting or working through something or whatever before putting my health at risk and before choosing to not care what happens to me. I think betrayal is mine. Finding out that the fidelity we have broke. I don’t care what the people around me think, but I do have to live with my own feelings.

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I agree to the humiliation part. I think society looks at the one who got cheated on as they did something wrong so it's easy to feel humiliated in that scenario. 
I've always said that if someone cheats on me, then never wanted to be with me anyway so it saves me more wasted time and energy. I don't believe that checking up on them and trying to hound them about where they are and who they are with, yada yada, is going to prevent the cheating. It'll prolly just make it happen sooner. If someone wants to cheat, there's nothing you can do to stop it. So yeah, I think I'd only care cuz of the humiliation that comes with it.

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I would feel bad cz I loved him with everything and him doing such a thing implies that it all means nothing to him. What can happen next is another thing, but you do care a lot when it happens. It’s an emotional apocalypse.

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My bf has cheated on me in the past. It doesn't bother me like it does other women there is no loss of love or trust or any anger etc. The worst part is just the lack of communication (slight lying or lack of truth) that caused our relationship to get to that point. It also fueled some self confidence and depression issues in myself.

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I would care because sex to us is special, our connection is amazing, we’ve both slept around while single and both said we are sexual soulmates, for him to sleep with someone else he would be throwing away our love, the family n life we have spent yrs building, because I would never touch him again if he thought all that was worth risking for another female