We were married almost 5 years. I knew 3 years in that he was not the kind, caring person he’d led me to believe he was. He is controlling and abusive, mentally and physically. I haven’t loved him since. I saw it through 10 months of therapy and the last/worst year of our marriage before I told him I wanted a divorce at the end of this past May. I moved out in June and started dating again in August.

Yeah, it’s quick. I just feel so OVER my ex. I don’t love him. I don’t miss him. I’m LOVING my new life!! I’m loving myself! ❤️

I want to date and feel good on my own for awhile. I want to get to know more people and really discover who else is out there. I didn’t date much before met my ex. I want to practice healthy boundary setting. I want to experience healthy interactions. I want to see what relationships are like when I continue to value myself and put myself first.

So, long story long... when do you tell your date?

I’m shopping for lawyers and hope to file in the next month or two. I’m actively pursuing divorce. FYI