Hardest Pregnancy
So I’ve been married over a year now. We have a toddler & I’m pregnant again. This pregnancy has been extremely hard on my body. I went through a hard pregnancy before and we lost the baby. My first pregnancy was a breeze & I was able to actually do things & be active. This pregnancy has me in the bed all day feeling awfully sick. My husband doesn’t understand this or he does & he just doesn’t care. I’m not even half way through the pregnancy & I’m ready to give up. I can’t ask him for a single favor without him getting angry or upset with me. I’m so hurt over his behavior & I feel completely unloved. I know I’m more sensitive because I’m pregnant and I kept telling myself that. We stayed with his mom this week due to the hurricane & evacuation and I realized it’s not just me being sensitive. He didn’t have to work all week, he didn’t have to do anything and he would get angry & say the meanest things to me if I asked him to help me with our toddler or ask him to help me in the house. It hurts so much because his mom would ask him to do something and he would be so happy to do it & wouldn’t say one thing to her out of the way. I just feel so low right now. I told him how I felt because I asked him to watch our son while I took a nap because I felt like I was going to puke & he got angry and yelled at me that he was going to leave me and that I always tell him what to do. I couldn’t help it I got so upset and packed my things and took my son to a hotel for the night. He acted like he didn’t say or do anything. I had to pull over several times on my way to the hotel because I was crying so hard and puking so much I couldn’t even drive 10 mins to the nearest hotel. He blew up my phone and told me to come back. He apologized and said it wouldn’t happen again. I came back the next day because I’m trying to make this work. It wasn’t even a few hours later he was doing the same thing. I don’t know what to do anymore. Not only do I feel all alone in taking care of our son, I feel like he puts everything on me. I told him today I just want to alone, I don’t want to be with someone who makes me unhappy. If I’m going to take care of our child alone anyways why am I in this relationship. All he talks about is playing his game and going to work. He acts like the perfect husband and dad in front of everyone but I have to beg him to be around or help. I’m just so crushed. He’s always been this way but it’s never been this bad. It hurts so much to tell the person you love how you feel and they ignore you & act like they’re perfect & it’s all on you. I’ve never felt this way in our relationship before but I’ve realized he’s not going to change & not only is he not going to change but it’s the worst it’s ever been. I just wish he loved me like I’ve always loved him & I wish he could see how much I’m struggling with this pregnancy. I wish he could focus on me and his family and not work & his friends. He says if I even think about leaving him he’s going to kick me out and take everything from me and he doesn’t care if I have the kids. He’s told me if I don’t like where he chooses to live & im not happy that he don’t care and I can leave but he wouldn’t be with me and the kids. I don’t know why I’m so stupid. I don’t know why I believed that he ever loved me like I love him. If he told me he was unhappy or that he was struggling I would do whatever it took to help him & make him happy. I just look at my life sometimes & I think I’m living his life for him. I’m doing everything he wants me to for him to be happy. I struggle everyday cause I don’t want to bother him & I don’t want him to accuse me of trying to force him to help me with our child. I tell him we are both responsible for our children and if I can’t be there 100% then he should step up, he just says he will get help for me. He will pay someone to help me with the kids. I just don’t understand. 😔
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