How would you respond?

My mom has been pretty mia this whole pregnancy. Rarely calls to check on me, hasnt bought my babygirl anything yet (not that material things matter) and hasnt asked me anything about anything until now. This is her first grand baby. I'm trying to stay kind with my very stubborn and entitled family, but it's not easy. How would you respond to this? We dont want anyone there until we are ready....whenever that is.