My mother and I have a very toxic relationship and have fought on and off over the years. When she gets angry, she spreads half-truths that make me look bad, says hurtful things and tries to sabotage my plans. She’s very narcissistic, manipulative and controlling.

For my bridal shower, my step mother (she’s been more of a mother to me - my dad had full custody and my mother lived states away for 18 years of my life) planned a beautiful shower. I invited me mother who ruined the day by sobbing the whole time because she “can’t believe her daughter was getting married.”

My shower was at a tea room that had been rented out and was about a 3 hour event. Most was spent consoling her.

After the shower, she went on Facebook and wrote how disrespected she felt at the shower and how much better it’d have been if she threw it. Even though she had no intentions of throwing me a shower.

Later she texted me telling me she was just jealous and that’s why she acted out.

I am so nervous about inviting her to the wedding. I love her and don’t want to

hurt her feelings but I don’t know how much more I can take of this.

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Thank you so much ladies. This has been sooooo hard for me.

We had a discussion leading to her telling me she feels hurt, rejected and unwanted. She hung up on me so I resorted to messaging her about it all. This is how that went: