Appropriate amount of "wind down" time?

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So I work from 4pm-10:30pm and then am normally in bed by 11:30pm because my son gets up at 8am. My husband works 3-11:00pm and stays up until 4am to "wind down" and won't get up until noon or later each day. Its super annoying and he never has time to help with anything in the house or our son. I'm 23 weeks pregnant so I could really use the extra help. How much time do you take after work to wind down before going to bed?

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My husband and I work 3-11:30pm. Don't get home till 12. We are in bed by 2:30 if we don't start a project.  If we work on something it is not unusual for us to be up till 4am. We still get up at 9 or 10 am though.

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Well I’m a sahm but my husband usually doesn’t get in till late at night when he is in town for work because even then he is still a hour away and doesn’t leave he job site till 8 or so... my husband even if he walks in the door at 10 comes home showers we eat diner together spend a bit of time together and still in bed by 11:30 because he is up at 5 amd and I’m up at 7 🤷🏻‍♀️down time is a matter of opinion and a choice I believe 🤷🏻‍♀️🤨

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I take at least 2 hours until I can sleep after work. I work 3-12 usually and can't help that i stay up later and wake up later. It's just how i was made

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How much time we need to wind down really is beside the point… some people are just night owls and like to stay up. I am like that as well. But I am disciplined enough to know that if I do that to myself, guess what? I still have to wake up and take care of my child and my environment! The truth is your man is not interested in parenting or participating in the care of his environment. He wants to sleep and he has no discipline to wake up and be a part of the team. You need to let him know that you are feeling very overwhelmed and you need him to participate and contribute to parenting and the care of his environment. You need him to wake up and not sleep the day away. I would say he should be able to stay up as late as he wants as long as he can wake his ass up in the morning too because Life goes on even if he’s tired. Maybe come up with a schedule that works for him too… Maybe ask him to be up no later than 10 AM and when he does wake up, he needs to contribute to what is going on in the house. The two of you need to be functioning as a team. In any team, when one player is slacking or undisciplined, the others have to pick up the weight and they are not happy with their teammates for having to do that. So, in order to keep this team functioning, the two of you need to participate equally. If he doesn’t get that, perhaps you can ask him to attend couples counseling with you? If he won’t do that, then he’s not willing to make things better.

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Definitely not 5 hours lol. That’d drive me nuts. My husband gets home at about 3:30 and he takes a shower and chills for a moment before coming out. But he helps with our son while I cook afterwards. 
I would be pissed if my husband wokeup that late everyday. totally skimping on helping as a parent in my eyes. If he got off work at 4am... that’d be totally different. But he’s making the choice to stay up that late.

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What a dick, that just an excuse. I like about 30 minutes to decompress and switch from work Sarah to home Sarah but it doesn't always happen because, ya know, I'm an adult with responsibilities and people/ animals who depend on me for survival.

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